-Ka-Pow
Nothing stays the same. Not the house you grew up in, first dog, first crush.. You aren’t the same you you were at 15, or even the same you you were last year. And neither is anyone else. We tend to try to keep things the way they are in our heads. This person exists this way in my mind. That person I dated who broke my heart is a person who lacks compassion and doesn’t think about the effect of their actions on other people. Is that still true twenty years later? Maybe ..and maybe there’s been incredible growth. My parents were this way or that way when I was growing up, and so now I’m like this. Are they still that way? Do you still need to be like this?
My point- the earth is spinning around, and we are spinning around on it, and yet somehow we want to peg things down. I go to this store and I buy these items and I eat at this time, and I gym at this time. I know my partner is this way, and my best friend is like X, and you get the picture, right?? Even your dog, who will love you unconditionally with every breath for their whole life, is changing. But we resist that reality, and are usually shocked and dismayed when loved ones die, even if they’re 100 years old and we knew it had to happen eventually. It’s almost like we think death happens to everyone.. but us. People always say that the loss of a loved one puts everything in perspective. Does it take death to wake us up? Do you really GAF about 90% of the stuff you obsess over?
There are 2 times people seem to take action–when they’re desperate and when they are inspired. Otherwise, you see most people trying to maintain the status quo. The status quo is changing, too. If it’s living, if it’s made up of energy, then it changes. When we resist the natural process of change, we strangle ourselves and others. We prevent our own growth, we limit our own potential, and we cling to things as they are, even as they’re slipping through our fingers. WE BEG “Please, I worked so hard to get here. Leave things alone, I’m all good.”
Things will keep shifting whether you want them to or not, sooo you might as well accept that. Resisting it is futile and exhausting. If you’ve been in a situation that’s causing you deep pain, and you’re feeling desperate for something to give, you need to examine your participation. The why of it is the key to your healing. GOOD NEWS is that desperate people get things done. Not that any of us would ask to get to that point, but chances are, if you haven’t been loving yourself well, that’s where you’re headed. Maybe it’s what you needed in order to start to move in a different direction. If you get to a point at work where things are just intolerable, you will start to think of a way out. Your mind will begin with all its machinations to forge a new path. And as soon as your mind begins to do that, a new way, you will figure out how to make it happen. Even if you’ve been telling yourself for a long time that it’s impossible. That there is no way. There’s always a way~~~~
If you can allow the idea that everything is in a constant state of flux to inspire you instead of terrify you, you’ll probably start to live with a little fire under your ass. Its a good thing, I think. Too many people talk about wasting time or “killing time”, as if it’s limitless. And it is. The world was spinning before we got here, and it will go on spinning ..The real question is, what will you do with the time you’ve got? That’s finite. My feeling at this point in my life, soooo the more you invest your time and energy toward spreading L-O-V-E, the more you uncover your gifts and share them, the more you treasure those moments that are so easy to take for granted and recognize that just breathing deeply is a gift, the more you notice the beauty that’s all around you, the more your time here will have meaning. Because it does. Your particular spark is not an accident. Shine it.
