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Not every human we meet is ready.
Each one of us is an irreplaceable and on a unique soul journey, with different feelings, beliefs, intentions, desires and motivations.
When we meet someone new, perhaps we are romantically attracted to, we often hope that they are able to meet us at the exact place we are at in our lives. But sadly, the opposite is often the case.
This same disconnect can also happen with people we have been in a relationship with. We evolve and go through many changes, but sometimes we don’t adjust well to our partners once we, or they…….. changed.
We may place unrealistic expectations on this person and when they won’t or aren’t able to meet them, we take it personally and are left feeling unwanted. We question if there was ever a connection…..
The thing is ~ we just may not be compatible at that period in time. It is usually no one’s fault and no one hopes that the bonds won’t seal down on every corner, but for reasons often hidden, something is causing relationship dysfunction and the connection just won’t flow.
Unless we want to experience constant suffering and pain by trying to force a relationship, the only option left is to take a breath of faith and then let it go.
To attain inner peace , it is essential to work out how to release our grip and surrender so that whatever is meant to be can be, without us pressuring it to be something different—something based only on our own desires and individual needs.
We often feel that we are stronger for holding on to the relationship, and that if we pour enough time, attention and effort into it, miraculously the other person will see the light and come around to our way of thinking and feeling… But, this flood of emotional energy often has the opposite effect, and instead of feeding the relationship, it suffocates and drowns the residual positive emotions that have been lingering.
Sometimes, the most courageous thing we can do is to resist the temptation to cling and instead gently and gracefully let all of our attachments to this person go.
When we hear the term “let go,” we can become confused thinking this means that we have to cut someone loose from our life . But it’s the opposite. Letting someone go can be the most loving, and considerate thing we can do for ourselves, as well as the other person.
Something powerful happens when we loosen our grip and relinquish the need to control or force the relationship to go where it isn’t ready to go.
Our fear of loss is replaced with belief and faith in ourselves and also the person we are choosing to let go of. We are sending out a spiritual signal to the universe that we trust in our own ability to deal with what is and what isn’t meant for us—as well as trusting the other person to make choices that align with what they want for their life, as well.
As we open up this channel, new energy flushes in, and with it arrives opportunities and possibilities that we wouldn’t have noticed before. All our energy was caught up in holding on to the past, that it was blocking us from anything new beginning in the future.
In a way, letting go is like using Feng Shui to sweep out negative energy so that positive energy can flow in.
When we let go, we don’t just let go of the person so they can breathe freely, without us placing restrictions on them, we also let go of all the frustration, anger and irritation and pain that we had been holding on to while we were clinging tight with the unwillingness to let things just naturally be.
We can often become attached to low emotions, as they can feel familiar, especially if we have been feeling them for a very long time. Therefore, it is so important that we are gentle with ourselves as we transition from holding on to letting go. This gives our emotions the opportunity to stabilize and get used to rolling and flowing freely once more.
Letting go can be so scary as there is always the risk that once we let go, something this good or this intense may not come our way again, However, holding on to someone who doesn’t want to be held only prolongs our suffering and keeps us stuck in a cycle where cutting emotions have the ability to make us feel inadequate and therefore cause very painful wounds again and again and again.
It isn’t always as simple as taking a deep breath and a leap of faith to flip everything . But surrendering to the present moment and letting go of all that has happened in the past and the need to know what the future holds is lempowering and exhilarating.
Letting go brings in fresh, new energy by allowing others the flexibility to stretch and grow. Surrendering shows us the exquisite beauty and preciousness that can be found in the present moment when it is not being pulled and twisted due to our fear of the future or oppressed and tethered due to our regrets from the past.